Thursday 29 August 1661
At the office all the morning, and at noon my father, mother, and my aunt Bell (the first time that ever she was at my house) come to dine with me, and were very merry. After dinner the two women went to visit my aunt Wight, &c., and my father about other business, and I abroad to my bookseller, and there staid till four o’clock, at which time by appointment I went to meet my father at my uncle Fenner’s. So thither I went and with him to an alehouse, and there came Mr. Evans, the taylor, whose daughter we have had a mind to get for a wife for Tom, and then my father, and there we sat a good while and talked about the business; in fine he told us that he hath not to except against us or our motion, but that the estate that God hath blessed him with is too great to give where there is nothing in present possession but a trade and house; and so we friendly ended. There parted, my father and I together, and walked a little way, and then at Holborn he and I took leave of one another, he being to go to Brampton (to settle things against my mother comes) tomorrow morning.
So I home.
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First Reading
Australian Susan • Link
"were very merry"
All seems fine now between Sam and his mum, which is good for family relations!
"we friendly ended"
No mention of what Tom and the young lady might have thought about all this. Once money is involved, marriage becomes a thing of contracts and agreements - romance never allowed to peep in at the door. Anyone read any of the Paston correspondence from the 15th century? Even knowing about arranged marriages and so on, I found the attitudes expressed there alien and shocking - no thought is given at all to anyone's feelings. Sam and his dad have echos of this.
vicente • Link
"...there came Mr. Evans, the taylor, whose daughter we have had a mind to get for a wife for Tom, and then my father, and there we sat a good while and talked about the business; in fine he told us that he hath not to except against us or our motion, but that the estate that God hath blessed him with is too great to give where there is nothing in present possession but a trade and house; and so we friendly ended..."
Speculation?
Mr Evans has too many daughters [mouths to feed], name less wench may know how to make button holes. Tom need's seamstress? Check teeth, young and sound?[ brood mare ] [good childbearing hips]?
The dowry available means he should get into a good stable and stallion, enough cash to get a title too maybe? Why settle for a bed and sheets.
Tough negotiator is our Mr Evans, [no flys on 'im][under breath, not that good a taylor either, me Evans remember, knows a good needle and thread man when he sees one.]
In other words, from an outsiders point of view NO dice. No quid pro quo.
vicente • Link
question?"...(to settle things against my mother comes)..." is the bracket in the wrong place?????
Mary • Link
placing of the brackets.
L&M gives the same reading. And why not? Innuendo?
vicente • Link
'All seems fine now between Sam and his mum, which is good for family relations'
I do not see it that way, the last line makes it seem that there be a touch of tension between Pops and Mother.
Pauline • Link
"a touch of tension between Pops and Mother."
(to settle things against my mother comes)
He's going first to get the house ready: move in their furniture? whatever. I don't see a speck of tension in that. Sam preceded Elizabeth to their new home. Took care of all the arrangements.
(But perhaps Margaret is so far gone in her irrationality that he best do it himself: the turmoil too frustrating for her. Guess it depends on what you think has been bothering Margaret these past 8 months.)
helena murphy • Link
Arranged marriage was neither alien nor shocking then, nor is it now. It is today the norm throughout North Africa, Asia and the Middle East. It has a very high success rate compared with marriage in the west. In cultures where the young do not date freely the joy of a couple at the prospect of their arranged marriage cannot be measured. The system falters when greedy parents demand too high a dowry or have too high expectations, as in today's entry, thus depriving a son or daughter of happiness,.
Ruben • Link
Arranged marriage
May be Mr. Evans, the taylor, knew Tom from the trade and did not want him in his family.
But respecting Mr. Pepys he gave an answer that made the deal impossible.
Australian Susan • Link
"alien and shocking"
Helena, I was using these words specifically in relation to the attitudes of the Pastons as revealed in their letters, (which seemed to have been the norm in 15th century England). I believe that people arranging marriages today in many cultures do so with more care and compassion than that.An example from the Paston latters: one of the male Pastons bewails the fact that he cannot sell a ten year old girl in his charge for a high enough price and so won't make as much out of her as he hoped.
Pedro • Link
And on this day 29th August 1661...
De Ruyter fell in near Gibraltar with Montague, who was on his way to Lisbon. He sent his secretary on board the Admiral's ship to present his compliments and acquire knowledge of the situation in the Med.
(Life of Admiral De Ruyter by Blok)
Second Reading
Bill • Link
" he being to go to Brampton (to settle things against my mother comes)"
In August, 1661, John Pepys retired to a small property at Brampton (worth about £80 per annum), which had been left to him by his eldest brother, Robert Pepys
---Wheatley, 1896.
San Diego Sarah • Link
“It is a terrible thing to be obliged to love by contract.” – Roger de Rabutin, Comte de Bussy (1618-1693)
Third Reading
San Diego Sarah • Link
Samuel Pepys to Sandwich
Written from: Lincoln's Inn Fields
Date: 29 August 1661
Shelfmark: MS. Carte 73, fol(s). 585
Document type: Holograph
Mentions family news [see MS. Carte 73, fol. 581].
States that the present season is generally sickly both in town & country; "Even to a contagion, or very neere it" ... "The known Dr. Fuller (of the Holy War) is dead" ... "All but Church matters are very quiet, & them [sic], especially in Scotland, make great noise".
Mentions the delay of the fleet for Lisbon, "through want of tidings from Portugal".
FROM
Carte Calendar Volume 32, June - December 1661
Bodleian Library, University of Oxford
Edward Edwards, 2005
Shelfmark: MS. Carte Calendar 32
Extent: 464 pages
https://wayback.archive-it.org/or…
San Diego Sarah • Link
I wonder if Pedro is copying from a different year in his book?
Once again I have nothing in my book of Sandwich's sea logs to match his 2007 posting -- and Sandwich would mention meeting de Ruyter's secretary.
SEE https://www.pepysdiary.com/diary/…
Eric the Bish • Link
“In fine” = “in finé” - ie finally; in the end.
MartinVT • Link
SDS, regarding the encounter with de Ruyter, see England in the Mediterranean, Vol. II (https://www.cristoraul.org/ENGLIS…)
On page 25 (of the book, not the PDF): "About the Straits he encountered De Ruyter and politely returned his salute, though without lowering his flag. He even gave him a full account of his failure at Algiers, and then passed on his way." The date of this encounter is unclear from this source but seems to be about at this time. The source of the information on the salute etc. is given as a French biography, Vie de De Ruyter.
San Diego Sarah • Link
Thank you, MartinVT. Guess how I'll be spending Labor Day weekend!
I read Vol. I about the Commonwealth years when I was trying to understand the background to Rupert's relationship with Pepys. Then I completely forgot about Vol II.
This should explain a lot.
The Victorian fascination with the Stuarts is so helpful, and thank you Gutenberg.org for making their work available to us at home and on demand. (I can't imagine going to the library and requesting the hard copy, and waiting 2 weeks for it to arrive. How did we manage?)
Matt Newton • Link
and I abroad to my bookseller, and there staid till four o’clock, at which time by appointment I went to meet my father at my uncle Fenner’s.
Did SP have a timepiece or go by the many church spire clocks?
San Diego Sarah • Link
He hasn't mentioned owning one, Matt. They were very expensive at the time. Maybe the bookseller had a wall clock? It would probably only have had an hour hand, and you had to guess the minutes. Or maybe he went by the traditional church bell tolling. Pepys doesn't tell us.